We all want to feel relaxed and happy – especially around the Holiday’s.
Follow these empowering TIPS, with motivation & soul gift insights below to stay aligned with your Happiness:
1. Don’t fall into people pleasing!
Don’t put your self-worth in the hands of others. Many people slip into “people pleasing” as they try to gain approval by over-giving and saying “Yes” when they really want to say, “No”. This is a part of learning, and the fact that you are aware is the first step to changing old habits.
TIP: Forgive yourself. Don’t waste even more time beating yourself up for not saying “No”. Continue learning from your mistakes, so that you can support yourself better.
MOTIVATION: Over-giving drains your energy. It can make you dread the holidays and lead to others not respecting you as well.
SOUL GIFT: You are gaining the gift of awareness and self-worth & esteem when you stand up for yourself. [Healing Your Sacral Chakra when you support your value in this way.]
2. Set healthy boundaries.
Hard to say “NO”? Give yourself a break, you may have cultivated this habit long ago to avoid criticism, rejection or conflict.
TIP: Practice setting boundaries with love. Here are some examples:
I’d love to help you and am available for an hour on “this day/time”. I hope that you can use help at that time. Notice, you are still saying “yes” and this will help with the energy. People respond much differently when you find a way to say yes. However, if you truly must say no, then by all means, say no.
I wish I could say “Yes”, I’ve always loved participating. However, this year it has to be a “No”. Note, you don’t have to explain any further, but if that makes you uncomfortable, you can add this … [my schedule, my family needs, etc.] doesn’t permit it.
MOTIVATION: There is nothing more important than your energy – you need to value it to have enough of it to give.
SOUL GIFT: You are healing self-trust, proving to yourself that you are valuable enough to stand up for, and to set healthy boundaries for. This leads to better self-trust. [Healing Heart Chakra & Root Chakra Energy when you learn to trust that you are safe to stand up for yourself.]
3. Commit to joy.
Figure out what that looks like for you, truly – not based on the needs and wants of others.
TIP: Promise yourself (your inner baby) that you will carve out some special time to create joy and feed your soul in your own way. If it’s listening to Christmas Caroles, or watching a sappy movie, pick a time to do that, and find a space to honor and respect your needs.
MOTIVATION: Don’t risk burnout. I don’t want you to dread the holidays! If you don’t make time for you, if you don’t value your happiness, others may not either!
SOUL GIFT: You are healing your relationship with your inner child and your self-love. [Healing Sacral Chakra Energy when you connect with your inner child-like true joy.]
4. Commit to Rest.
You may have witnessed people never resting, and believe that “Idol hands…” however, explore this.
TIP: Promise yourself that you will not run yourself into the ground.
MOTIVATION: If you are not resting, you may not be impacting your immune system, and possibly causing yourself to be drained or unhappy during the holiday season. And remember, you are “teaching others” both how to be, and how to treat you by how you are treating yourself.
SOUL GIFT: You are healing unconditional love of yourself and modeling behavior for others to do the same. [Healing Sacral Chakra & Root Chakra Energy in valuing and supporting your energy in this way].
5. Handling Toxic Conflict.
If you have come to dread holiday situations/events or some of the people involved, you will want to be prepared so that you can preserve the holiday fun that you deserve. *Do not attempt to “reach” or “teach” others during a holiday function. This is best reserved for another time, and with souls who come to you and truly ask for your help or want to grow. Otherwise, they are most likely not ready.
TIP: Go into any potentially difficult situations ready. Here are some neutralizing statements:
That’s an interesting point of view. [Switch topics to the weather, or something that is neutral.]
I’m sorry you feel that way. [Either point out a positive, if you feel it will be heard, or if not, excuse yourself and head to another location or to be with others who are more uplifting.]
I love that you are so observant. [Switch topics to them, and if possible, turn the situation around by asking something similar to what they have brought up. For example, if they constantly make a personal comment or observation, about your hair or weight, and it feels uncomfortable, you may want to respond with, “Thanks, yes, my hair/weight is always changing. And how about you? What have you been doing differently?” This may not work, but it will give you time to think and to make excuses to remove yourself. This also turns the tables by offering them an opposite insight. Again, it may or may not work. And if it doesn’t, then move away from the situation by excusing yourself.]
MOTIVATION: This puts you in a position of power, rather than being victimized by their words/actions. It allows you to take the reins and to lead conversations to create the Peace & Happiness that you desire and deserve.
SOUL GIFT: You are healing confidence, self-respect and boundaries when you do this [Healing Solar Plexus Energy].
I hope these served as a reminder to stay empowered, and gave you some thoughtful ways to stay in alignment energetically so you can make the most of your holidays.
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Here’s to having a Happy Peaceful and Energetic Holiday Season!
With Love,
Vicki Murphy
